Say it!

You may call me politically incorrect if I begin by saying that the one who endures a crime is worse than the one who commits it and no matter how much you try to obscure it with the ongoing political examples,you can still recall the big boss viewers condemning Tanisha staying mum on Armaan's whims and tantrums(and of course anger) that were very evidently directed towards her.Hence it would be inappropriate to look at it merely through political glasses because we all face it in our daily lives.There is a haughty Armaan in each of our lives and we stay mum to whatever he does due to a cloud of perceptions of consequences that we create and apparently dwell in.We dont resist it at first for courtesy issues doing what we allow the other person to feel free to subject us to the same ordeal any time.This person mostly turns out to be the one who is very near and dear and sensitive so we become ostentatious in the situations in order to maintain harmony not realising that it all piles up somewhere.Our world has windows and gateways to address practically all issues if not to solve them alone.Just a couple of days back I was enjoying my favourite coffee when I received a call from a friend.Terrified,as her voice, was what the ripples in my peaceful coffee changed to.Her best friend at college had become an absolute nuisance in her life and had frustrated the hell out of her.There wasnt a word that she uttered that didnt narrate her anguish and I kept listening patiently thinking it would calm her down if she vented it out on phone.But at the end,though she disconnected abruptly signifying that she had vomited it all,I regret not telling her the right solution.You can always come up with a trick that could implicitly convey it to the person that you dont like the present state of conditions that his/her deeds have intentionally or unintentionally led to.But thinking of it spontaneously is not practicable always and if the perpetrator is invariably dumb to your tricks,you may not succeed then.The only solution left is to say it with a straight face because once it gets to their head then another shot at making them realise it some time later would become an easy job.All you need is a correct choice of words and a continent temper that you can sprinkle at the right time.Puff!!Burst the cloud because no relationship survives on only one's efforts.If your deploration or resistance strains it then so be it,may be it wasnt meant to be.But you must not refrain from keeping your viewpoint clear to them.Your peace of mind is as importance as their so follow the old but gold logic-Live and let live.Stay happy.:):)